A lot of planning goes into a wedding by the bride and groom, to ensure that their day can truly be their day – exactly how they want it, down to a tee.
But, according to some guests, these demands can quickly go too far, with one couple being called out for a ‘passive aggressive’ line on their wedding invitation.
“This is a wedding reception, not a girls night”
A couple has come under fire after one of their wedding guests took to Facebook to rant about a small detail on their invitation.
On the note, under dress code, it’s not something simple like ‘black tie optional’ or a color scheme – but rather a line being called out for its ‘passive aggressive’ undertones.
“Dressy casual, please dress appropriately and respectable,” the invitation says.
“This is a wedding reception, not a girls night.”
Yikes!
The poster called the implication “gross” and completely unnecessary.
“Weird to want to announce your insecurity to everyone but you do you,” they wrote.
“I don’t agree with implying that clothing is what makes a woman ‘respectable’. If you want modest, just say that. But the implication in this is gross. Very simple.
“It feels gross to me to make a passive-aggressive comment to only the girls that this ‘is not a girls night’. Implying that women don’t know what’s appropriate for a wedding? That we’re just naturally attention-seeking?”
“I’d be so tempted to show up in my finest club wear”
Commenters on the post thought the wording was ridiculous, calling the couple out for their “mean” behavior.
“It’s a disgusting implication and quite frankly I’d be so tempted to show up in my finest club wear,” one commenter snapped.
“I’ve seen way more inappropriately dressed men at weddings – jeans, tennis shoes or boots, wearing a cap – than I’ve seen women crossing the line, so it’s weird for her to only comment about women,” another pointed out.
Some even thought it may have been targeting one person in particular.
“Like when my boss sent out a group text about wearing sports bras as shirts and there was only one person doing that – and that person ignored the memo and kept doing it,” one person added.
Is it really a problem?
However, some thought the note was completely justified in ensuring the bride got the look she wanted on her wedding day. Anything for good photos, right?
“Nothing wrong with expecting people to be appropriately dressed,” one person said.
“I have a family member who I have to tell to cover up on Easter, Christmas and Thanksgiving. Not because I’m insecure but because she dresses really [inappropriately] and it’s actually embarrassing,” another added.
