His feelings are boiling over.
One woman’s cooking is on the chopping block after his husband finally admitted that her meals have been nearly inedible eight years into their marriage.
The anonymous man took to Reddit to air out his frustrations saying his spouse has the confidence of a seasoned chef, but produces unappetizing — and potentially dangerous — dishes.
In fact, the situation is so dire that the husband, 29, is “scared she’s going to kill someone one day” with undercooked meat and feels like he needs “to watch her like a hawk.”
“She undercooks just about everything, especially meat, and no matter how many times I try to politely correct her, she claims I’m being ‘picky,’” he explained, adding that they split household responsibilities 50/50, including kitchen time.
“For example, every time she makes rice, I just can’t convince her it’s 1 part rice to 2 parts water. She always says ‘are you sure? That seems like a lot of water.’ Or ‘Maybe that’s how you like it, but I don’t want it so mushy,’” he continued. “The package and google won’t convince her either, and I just swallow my pride and eat the crunchy rice every time. It’s like that with everything.”
While he might be able to choke down ill-prepared meals, his wife, 28, constantly invites their friends over for dinner. They “politely eat,” but they have accepted “fewer and fewer invitations for dinner” as a result.
“She really prides herself on her cooking and wants to make everything herself,” the husband explained. “I just trail behind her, trying to make sure it’s all edible, but there’s usually a few dishes that end up drastically over salted or undercooked.”
While he claims he’s been protecting her feelings for their eight-year marriage, the situation has reached its boiling point.
Just the other night, the husband explained, his wife cooked chicken in the oven while he showered — and was shocked when she claimed it was “ready” just 10 minutes later. She argued that, because she pan-seared the meat before putting it in the oven, “it was fine,” but upon further inspection, the husband discovered “the sides were literally pink.”
“I snapped a little and told her she’s going to kill someone one day from serving them raw meat. Can’t you see that it’s pink? That’s food safety number 1,” he said.
“She said she thought it was done, and it’s not her fault, her mother never showed her how to cook chicken growing up. I then told her ‘Well you’re almost thirty, that’s no excuse for not knowing how to cook at all.’”
While he admitted he could have been kinder, he asked Redditors how he should handle the situation.
“You’ve been patient for eight years — that’s a long time to be chewing on crunchy rice and dodging food poisoning,” wrote one user who declared the man “not the a–hole.”
“You said she won’t listen to google or the instructions on the box- it’s obvious she had NO INTENTION of learning. If my 9 yr old granddaughter can grasp how dangerous it is to eat raw meat, why can’t your wife?” questioned one person.
“I didn’t know how to cook. And I didn’t have google. I had to teach myself (so many ppl do this everyday),” they continued. “I feel like your wife is playing stupid. But regardless, please stop having dinner parties (& don’t let her near children).”
Another reader called the woman’s behavior “confusing,” wondering “where in the world is this undeserved confidence coming from?”
“I just can’t resolve ‘never being taught how to cook’ with ‘assuming everyone else knows less than you about cooking,’” they wrote.
“While intending to be kind, you’ve allowed her to go several years thinking her food is edible when it’s not,” someone else chimed in. “You’ve only put your foot down when not doing so might have put you in the hospital.”
“You may have been nice, but you haven’t been kind. Hiding the truth is hurting you both, and ‘nice’ is just surface level,” another person agreed, adding that it sounds like the couple need to “work on your communication.”
“If you CAN’T talk to each other honestly about stuff like this, maybe eight is enough?”
