You stink.
Everyone has their dealbreakers when it comes to dating. For this one guy, his final straw had to do with his girlfriend’s lack of personal hygiene.
Posting in the r/AmITheAsshole subreddit on Reddit, a boyfriend vented to the internet to ask if he was being a jerk for wanting his smelly girlfriend to shower more often.
His rant started by giving some backstory to his girlfriend’s bizarre ways: “Typically we go to the gym together, and I’ve often asked her why she doesn’t shower.”
“She always comes with things like ‘Oh women don’t really sweat much, and I sweat very little even for women’s standards,’” he wrote.
“I don’t buy it, because I can smell. I used to just suck it up, because I know she’s extremely sensitive,” the conflicted guy shared. He also mentioned how this predicament affected the couple’s sex life.
He explained that his partner then incorporated the sauna into her workout routine, meaning if she wasn’t sweating before, she sure was now — yet the girl still hated a shower.
“I can smell her, very badly. Almost to the point where I try not to breathe in too close to her because it’s not good,” he said.
“I’ve tried so long to give hints to get her to shower more, like: ‘Hey do you want to take a shower together?’ But she can’t take the hint,” the boyfriend further explained.
Eventually, this back and forth led to a massive blowout and ultimately the couple broke up because, according to the boyfriend, “She refused to accept she was ‘disgusting’ by not showering, and did not see anything wrong.”
Over 4,000 people had something to say about this situation between a guy and his shower-hating girlfriend.
Many of the commenters validated how this fed-up boyfriend was feeling — but also expressed concern for his ex.
One commenter offered some decent advice: “I wouldn’t be surprised if she has some sort of phobia or OCD about the shower if she’s showering so infrequently, ignoring hints, and flipping out over requests.”
“In all sincerity, is it possible she has some kind of Asperger’s or autism? Either that or she’s happily dirty and smelly, and you two are incompatible in terms of personal hygiene,” the commenter continued.
“She’s an adult and really shouldn’t need to be told she needs to shower more than once a week. It would seem you are incompatible given your differing hygiene approaches so perhaps this is for the best?” read another comment.
“I can understand her feeling sensitive about this, but you did approach it in the most polite and loving way that you could and even offered showering together as a very sweet way to fix the problem. Your relationship is over because she is being gross. Not because you hurt her,” another person shared.
“I could never be with someone like this. Also routinely bath before being intimate, and if my partner needs to shower, I will gently ask. And he’ll do it, because he is polite and it’s courteous,” wrote another commenter.
“I kinda wonder if there’s something deeper going on, here. Like in what world does a person grow up to think they are magically above basic hygiene?” questioned someone else.
