Meet The Post’s brand-new advice columnists, Gail Rudnick and Kim Murstein — the no-nonsense hosts of hit podcast series “Excuse My Grandma.“
From family feuds to friendship fallouts, money, marriage and sex, there’s no topic too taboo to tackle, and the native New Yorkers will hash out each issue from their differing perspectives to tell the tough-love truth — and you’ll thank them for it.
To get your questions answered, head to nypost.com/ema and drop them a note about what you need sorted.
Dear Excuse My Advice,
I’ve been seeing someone for eight months who says they care about me, but they continue to say they’re not ready for a committed relationship yet. How long should I wait?
Kim: I’ve been here girl. I have been here.
Grandma Gail: Not that long.
Kim: Yeah, in hindsight, eight months is too long to not have defined the relationship or made your feelings clear.
Grandma Gail: If they’re younger, in their early 20s, then I would say eight months is no big deal. As you age, eight months is a long time. And if you can’t make a decision within an eight-month period, you’re never going to make a decision.
Kim: It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you.
Grandma Gail: No.
Kim: It just means that you don’t want the same thing.
Grandma Gail: You’re not on the same page.
Kim: That’s right. Grandma, do you even know what the talking stage is?
Grandma Gail: I don’t —
Kim: Before you’re exclusive, you’re in the talking stage, texting a lot, and you’re like, talking a lot…
Grandma Gail: It’s too many games. But see, that’s the problem. It’s too many games, and that’s where people are getting messed up. Why should somebody commit if they’re getting what they want anyway? Once you’re sleeping with somebody, you’re sleeping with somebody. You know, in the old days, you didn’t sleep with anybody and that’s why you got married. If you’re over 25, if a person can’t commit after four months… Goodbye.
Dear Ask My Advice,
He’s a Gemini, and I’m a Pisces. Should I skip this date because our horoscopes aren’t compatible?
Kim: I know what you’re going to say!
Grandma Gail: I think this person needs a shrink! Don’t look at the stars for all your dates. Look at the person.
Kim: You know that I believe in the zodiac stuff. More of my serious relationships have been compatible star signs, and the ones that have gone badly were not. That said, at least go on the first date because someone could surprise you. They could be on the cusp!
Grandma Gail: Well, I’m married 62 years and we’re both on the same sign. And they say Tauruses should never get together. So that blows that theory away.
Kim: Yeah, that’s true. So, go on the date.
Grandma Gail: Go on the date!
