To have and to hold? Or to have and to cuckold?
They say cheaters never prosper. But, if your partner’s fantasy is watching you go to pound town with another person — then, hey, you’re in a win-win situation.
And sex expert Adreena Winters says the cuckolding kink is way “more common than most people think.”
“There’s so much fantasy and stuff out there — but people need practical advice on how to approach it,” Winters, 37, author of “So You Want To Be A Cuckold?,” told JamPress of the secretly popular fetish.
Cuckolding typically involves a guy taking pleasure in watching his other half having sex with a more dominant man.
“I talk about what it is and how to approach your partner about it,” explained the NSWF know-it-all, who, in her tome, offers couples a woman’s perspective on best practices for pitching sexual fantasies to one another.
“It’s very easy to put a partner off very quickly if you go about it in the wrong way,” she warned. “I also discuss how to vet people that you might want to invite in and how to navigate jealousy.”
When three isn’t a crowd, it’s the thought that counts.
Thoughtfulness is key when making any strange sex request, as fetishes run the gamut from clean and squeaky to super freaky.
Beach ball porn became all the rage this summer, sparking a 46.85% surge in XXX-rated content that featured folks blowing up the inflatable playthings.
Still, the giantess fetish — a sexual fascination with preternaturally large women — remains the commonest kink across the U.S., per a 2025 report on the most-searched fetishes in every state.
And Winters, the self-titled “Queen of Cuckolds,” from the UK, has heard of them all.
“A lot of men love being told they have a small willy,” the sexpert said of dudes with predilections for penis humiliation. “They like hearing it even if their dick is perfectly average.
“I’m a size queen and I have quite high standards, so penis humiliation is easy for me,” confessed the skinfluencer, who shares steamy selfies and snippets on OnlyFans. “I love doing it and it’s fun.”
“A lot of men want their partner to be more dominant,” continued Winters. “I’m finding that women are also initiating more, and that’s quite exciting.”
Feederism, a sexual act during which thrill-seekers get turned on by watching each other eat and gain weight, is also buzzy in the bedroom, according to the Brit.
“The kinks always blow my mind,” she said before naming a funky fixation that a faction of fellas seem to love.
“Farting is huge,” Winters revealed. “I don’t know why, but men seem to really like the idea of women farting in their faces.”
“It’s unusual but harmless enough” said the pro. “Female wrestling is also really popular.”
Winters, however, cautions hedonists against throwing caution to the wind, and surprising their significant other with an off-the-wall fantasy.
“Don’t just drop your kink into your partner’s lap,” she urged. “You don’t want to scare them off.
“Good communication is really important, and the topic needs to be broached gently,” Winters said. “It’s also good to remember that if there is humiliation involved in the kink your partner wants to try, it’s not necessarily from a negative place.”
“You need to be showing each other support,” she insisted, “and making sure that you both feel safe and secure in any situation.”
