Wondering if you’re the one that got away?
TikTok astrologer Maryaam Lewis-Herbert, also known as Shawty Herbs, has shared the birth chart placements she believes make a person “unforgettable” and thus blessed with the power to haunt the dreams of their exes.
Herbs has based her list on the sign and placement of Venus in the birth chart.
As a refresher, Venus is our planet of wealth and worth. Named for the Roman goddess of love and fertility, Venus is the fine, divine feminine counterpart to aggro jock strap warlord Mars.
Etymologically, Venus derives from the Latin word for desire, and in kind, the planet informs what we’re drawn to and who and what we attract.
To determine if you have any unforgettable placements, take yourself to a birth chart generator like this one and enter your details.
Scorpio Venus
Venus in Scorpio requires intensity, passion and absolute intimacy in their relationships. Their desire for union transcends the physical, as they seek total psychic enmeshment, making them especially possessive of others, craving an “all or nothing,” blood oaths and hair dolls, “you can run but I will find you” kind of commitment.
Think of the character of Todd in “Wedding Crashers,” and you have a pretty strong idea of the archetype we’re dealing with.
Despite and perhaps because of the claustrophobic levels of attention, this placement makes for an extremely magnetic and seductive individual. It ain’t easy to breathe when you’re under this spell, and utterly impossible to forget it when you come up for air.
Herbs explains, “If you have a Scorpio Venus, no one is forgetting you babe. No one is forgetting the love that you gave to them. The way that Scorpio Venus will love you is insane but in the best way possible. You give people a life-changing type of love.”
Venus in the 8th house
The eighth house is home to themes like sex, death, resources, and rebirth. Having Venus wade in these dark waters equates to the profound potential to transform in and through the act of love.
Herbs expounds, “If you have your Venus in the 8th house, that shows that the love and the affection and the energy that you give to people is life-changing. Very intense, very passionate.”
Case in point? Venus in the 8th House native Jessica Simpson, who was famously described by her oft-trolled professional f–k boi ex John Mayer as “sexual napalm.”
Venus in Pisces
Herbs explains, “If you have your Venus in Pisces or your Venus in the twelfth house, the kind of love that you give to people is so spiritual and healing that it makes you unforgettable.”
For evidence, see Venus in Pisces, like inspirational/aspirational power players and world shakers like Martin Luther King Jr. and Kurt Cobain, who, in life and death, have inspired collective devotion.
On a decidedly less expansive scale, see Venus in Pisces, natives like Justin Bieber and Kourtney Kardashian, who have stirred public yearning and deep lament, both poetic and petty, in their exes.
Herbs herself confesses that her one true wish is to be loved by a Pisces Venus “because you guys are so selfless and so compassionate and so empathetic.”…and also, presumably dynamite at getting it on.
Venus in Cancer
At its highest expression, Venus in Cancer is love as medicine, healing the wounds of childhood and making the beloved feel both restored and adored.
This ilk loves you like you needed to be loved but never were before.
Herbs expounds, “If you have your Venus in Cancer, you are taking care of everybody. Your energy and the love that you give to people is unforgettable.”
In perhaps the most acute display of astrology at work, Queen Camilla has Venus in Cancer. True to the maternal idol/womb as origin and original home energy of this sign, her now-husband, King Charles, once famously expressed his ardent desire to be her tampon.
Ick indubitably but unforgettable all the same.
Another Venus in Cancer broad that inspires obsessive devotion in exes and strangers alike? HRH Stevie Nicks.
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Astrologer Reda Wigle researches and irreverently reports on planetary configurations and their effect on each zodiac sign. Her horoscopes integrate history, poetry, pop culture, and personal experience. To book a reading, visit her website
