Saying that might give a person the ick.
Sending an opening line to get the attention of someone you matched with on a dating app is nerve-wracking.
Just be sure not to send one of the messages a recent survey from FindingTheOne.com revealed as the ones most single people roll their eyes at.
Whatever you do, don’t just send a basic “Hey” or “Hi” because 78% of dating app users hate when they see a notification on their phone with one of these words — and nothing else.
The survey also revealed that 72% of singles also never want to be asked “You up?” because that automatically implies the person sending this wants one thing and one thing only — sex.
Right up there with the least butterfly-in-stomach-inducing messages include, “How are you?” If you send that boring question, be sure to expect a few yawns on the other end of the phone.
There’s no denying that it is difficult to show one’s personality through a message exchange, so it’s important to put some thought and emotion behind it, according to experts.
“Tone can be completely misunderstood, jokes fall flat, and often people either overthink their messages or put in no effort at all,” dating expert at FindingTheOne, Sylvia Linzalone said, according to the Daily Mail.
Cheesy pickup lines? 59% of people who receive one will most likely not reply back.
Who doesn’t love receiving a compliment? 54% of people clearly don’t because this group would rather a dating app match not lead with “Hey beautiful” or “Hi handsome.”
Never ask a person who you’re trying to get to know on a romantic level how long they’ve been single.
35% of those surveyed hate being asked, “Why are you single?” — while 18% don’t want to have to explain how long they’ve been solo.
After you finally send your thoughtfully curated message, if you find yourself obsessively checking your phone to see if a match responded — you’re not alone.
The 10 worst messages to send on a dating app:
- Hey/Hi
- You up?
- How are you?
- Cheesy pickup lines
- Hey beautiful/handsome
- I never usually message first…
- What are you up to?
- You free tonight?
- You remind me of my ex
- Tell me why we should date
Researchers revealed that dating apps actually mess with a person’s hormones.
Hormone health expert Mike Kocsis explained that when a user gets a dating app notification on their phone, it messes with the brain’s reward system pathway, resulting in neurochemical dependence.
Dating apps can make people chase “validation” and force them to seek reassurance from people they barely know because of the dopamine hit they get when there’s someone actively engaging with them on the app.
