A woman has sparked a fiery and debate by revealing what she expects men to pay for when she’s dating and in a relationship.
The Desirable Truth is a popular US TikTok account that has amassed millions of views by stopping people on the street and asking topical questions.
Recently, a woman was stopped and asked what she would expect a man to pay for if she were in a relationship with them.
“Going out to eat and then just little things and then, eventually if we were to live together and all of that … I’d expect you to take on more responsibility,” she said.
The man questioned if she would expect him to pay for groceries, rent, bills, clothes, and non-essentials if they were together, and she said yes.
The woman then asked the interviewer if he could afford to cover those expenses, to which he replied, “Of course”, but followed that up with a question of his own.
“Why should I?” he asked.
“Because you’re a man,” she said.
“I could at one point bear your children and I’d expect if I have a nine month pregnancy to have a husband that will be able to care of me.”
The man then asked if this was a new mindset she had when it comes to relationships or something she’d always believed.
“It is fairly new,” she said.
“When I was younger, there were points where I was more okay with paying but I just found it doesn’t benefit you at the end of the day.”
The young woman said she has found that when she has paid more or given more, it hasn’t been for the best.
The woman then argued that the reason she feels men should pay for things is because the world is still built for men to succeed more than women.
“The world was kind of built for men,” she argued.
“It is a patriarchy. I know everyone hates that word, if you’re a man you probably hate that word, but the system is kind of designed for men.”
The woman’s opinion sparked a significant debate, with some agreeing with her perspective and others claiming it didn’t sit right with them.
One person claimed dating has become “way too transactional” and another simply said, “nope”.
“So I’m buying someone? I’ll pass,” one man said.
“They scream for equality, till you split the check,” another man claimed.
One added: “My wife and I split everything.”
However, there were many that defended her, with one person saying, “she makes some good points.”
Another said her perspective makes sense for couples that are content with those “gender roles”.
“If a man loves you and wants you to live with them and they don’t pay for rent and utilities, it’s not love,” one woman claimed.
“Not outrageous! She is only expecting the extras when they are living together, in which case she is preparing to be a stay-at-home mum,” someone else pointed out.
