Parenting is one of the hardest jobs — so it’s common to want to lean on your spouse for support.
However, one tired wife did just that — and is now second-guessing if she’s asking for too much.
A millennial mom of a 1 and 2-year-old took to the r/AITA forum on Reddit to ask other users if she’s in the wrong for asking her husband to help take care of their kids on his own — for 30 minutes a day.
She explained in her post that she works part-time from home Monday through Friday while taking care of the couple’s two kids.
“In the morning they get all my attention, and it’s not too bad, but in the afternoons after their naps when I’m trying to work, keeps them entertained and taken care of it’s quite difficult. We’re actively working on a different solution, but this is what we have to do now,” the OP wrote.
By the time this mom finishes work, her husband is home and she starts getting dinner ready.
“I hate laundry and he hates cooking so we have an agreement that I do all the cooking and he does all the laundry and I don’t mind at all. The only thing I ask is for him to watch the kids and keep them out of the kitchen for 20-30 mins while I get dinner ready for us all,” she wrote.
She explained how this small window of playing with their kids is a “struggle for him” because he’s tired from work.
Cue the eye rolls.
“Tonight, I was in the middle of cooking, hands dirty, stove and oven on, and he asked if I could help change one of the kids while he held the other cause he was being fussy. I told him no, that I do this all day by myself AND work, and all I need is 20 minutes to cook for everyone.”
Well, this man-child got upset that his wife refused to help — before eventually giving in.
The bigger issue here is that this husband clearly doesn’t respect what his wife does all day — while he’s at work, solely focusing on that.
Fellow Reddit users sounded off in the comments.
“He can handle his own children for 30 minutes. Holy hell the weaponized incompetence. He should be embarrassed.”
“It sounds like he leaves you with the kids a hell of a lot more than 30 mins a day.”
“Those are his kids, too. It sucks to parent two tiny kids simultaneously by yourself. Sometimes parenting sucks, and he needs to be a full parent, not a helper.”
“You need to start taking some Saturdays away from your family, leaving your husband alone with the kids. He needs to get comfortable with parenting–and to understand how insane it is that you’re doing it WHILE working.”
Unfortunately, this isn’t the first incompetent guy to fire back at his partner for a simple request.
A frustrated woman begged her boyfriend to help with chores — and his response is shocking.
“We’ve been having the same discussion for years and we have not found a solution together,” she wrote in the r/AITA subreddit.
“I’ll do it when I feel like it,” was his response.
“If he doesn’t do the task on time then I have to do it anyways,” she wrote.
“I feel so drained mentally and I’ve told him as much,” she admitted. “He says that I’m being negative about the situation, and that I am being ridiculous and dramatic.”
